Emerging leaders today are caught between the employees they manage and the managers who manage them. Being adept and managing up and managing down is a skill that requires acumen, finesse and confidence. HERE IS HOW...
“It caught me by surprise,” she said. “I didn’t see it coming,” he said. “I had a feeling but I never thought it would be so soon,” she said.
I‘ve been hearing this a lot recently. People calling me, some former clients, some new to me, sharing their anxiety about being let go or “another re-organization” that leaves them feeling disempowered and lost. The fact is that all the signs were there but they chose not to look at them. They chose to ignore the stress they felt at work, the fatigue they felt at home, and the disappointment they felt at not having the influence or impact at the work they once enjoyed.
Deep inside we have a small voice that we tend to ignore. It’s the voice of truth.
With thousands of books on leadership, each with their own set of competencies and skills, you would think that everything that could be covered is covered.
Yet there are some leadership skills that are not so obvious. These skills are hidden and often demonstrated by introverts. That may be why you haven’t really noticed or identified them as distinct and valuable leadership skills. Introverts tend to remain in the background and hidden in a culture that overvalues extroversion. Yet they contribute immensely to finding solutions to stubborn problems.
This is the time of year that many people suffer from the "blues". There are real physiological and biological reasons for this dip in our energy. Light and darkness are thought to affect mood and behavior via the complex interaction between circadian rhythms and the biological clocks which control them.
No matter how optimistic you are or how happy your life is, everyone experiences “the blues.” You may recognize the symptoms in yourself or others – feeling sad, losing self-confidence, physical fatigue, lack of focus, wanting to be by yourself, a feeling of inertia, and perhaps even feeling pessimism. I’m referring to the occasional day or few days when you’re just not motivated and feeling a bit sad but you don’t know why.
If the blues are lasting for more than a few days, here are some things you can do to bring sunshine back into your day and your heart.
One of the most common reasons for engaging a coach is "time management". Everyone struggles with how busy they are and how complicated their lives are.
Now that vacations are over and we focus more on the last quarter of the year it may be helpful to reflect on how you spent your time off.
Did you bring your cell phone, laptop or iPad fully intending to be checking it on vacation. Do did you only travel where you could find an internet connection nearby?
It's not that this is "bad" but there is no intention to rest or reflect when you take your electronics on vacation. You haven't set limits on your work...There is actually a neurological reason that makes it so difficult to shut down your work-mind. It's called the Zeigarnik Effect.
Everyone experiences times when you don't succeed. Those are the times where you need to find ways to maintain your self-confidence despite your failures. Your failures do not define you any more than your successes define you. Yet how often do you give up your power to failures allowing them to create doubt and self criticism?
Confidence is both an "inner game" and an "outer game".
This guest post is written by Ed McManus, a longtime friend, writer and "jokesmith". His extensive experience on the corporate battlefield is the basis for this advice he shares for those graduates ready to enter the corporate world. A bit of skepticism, and a little humor mixed in with solid advice is exactly Ed's style.